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expand your mind this is psychologies

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outer limits with your host professor of

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oh good evening folks then happy

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Father's Day to all the fathers out

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there welcome to psychologies outer

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limits here on inception radio network I

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hope you're having a good weekend and I

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imagine there's a lot of dads out there

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at dinner right now or depending on the

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weather outside and I know from

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listening the radio that the Midwest got

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pounded some places got three or four

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inches but this wasn't like sandy where

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the storm kind of parked this was this

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went through pretty quickly but two

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inches of rain is an awful lot of rain

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but anyway happy day to all the dads out

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there I'm a dad too and on my Facebook

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page I put a picture of my dad when he

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was in his 20s wearing his army uniform

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I was whining that I only had three

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for that and you're welcome to my

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except I can't blow I can't find the

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phone number maybe

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maybe MJ will pop it up here for me in a

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moment shoot i usually hump it up you

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can call in and it's to exempt the phone

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number okay let's see it's 88 89 1923 55

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and i would love to get some call ins we

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haven't had any yet it's only the third

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show and you can also email to live

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I'm getting ready to change that to a

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gmail address because that'll work

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better for I RN and I think that covers

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oh and then also on on on oh my gosh

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but i but it would be kind of cool to

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get some call ins i would let's see

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matter of fact I to encourage a call in

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we're going to have a we're going to

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have a prize a it's a it's a portable

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that it's a long story but I get these

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to imagine it last week we never got

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around its long about our show topic

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which is major depression so i will make

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sure they'll talk about it this week but

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speaking of last week there were some

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questions and i said i would look them

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up and I did and one other that was

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really interesting uh a couple people

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ten percent and you know when you read

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most thing it's as you get is that will

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use all of our brain cells I mean we

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have a big brain and we'll use them all

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but I think this is just a guess okay I

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brain cells there's probably ten

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billions that were ten billion that we

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use the most that we use a lot and the

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people that for a variety of reasons

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have one half of their brain removed an

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all of our brain cells another answer is

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have research to back this up is that

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there's a clump of go to cells will call

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them that you know when we use those the

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most but there isn't a situation where

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we have ten percent of ourselves being

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used and ninety percent just sitting

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there idling you know waiting to be

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called in us into service but we do need

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redundancy when cells are hurt damaged

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or whatever other cells are pressed into

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service if we literally need every

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single cell we would

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be in trouble if we suddenly lost a

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bunch of them but I think it's really

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amazing that you can take away half of a

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person's brain and they still do well

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with the exception of they have poor

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control of the opposite side of their

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body so that's the answer to that

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question from last week and a great

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to do a little more research and I even

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used it a little bit in class this week

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because we happen to be in a section in

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the course where we were talking about

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the other question was on remote of the

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way now it was tough I could find why we

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go through academic research on on

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remote viewing but I was in the

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literature library and everything in

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there is pretty good i mean it's it's at

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least remotely related to science or it

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wouldn't be in there and I i came across

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two things first in terms of remote

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journal for spiritual and consciousness

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studies and it was actually sort of a

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recap of a discussion a talk that they

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that a marshal pain i think i'm

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pronouncing his name right that he gave

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but he he talked the daughter from a

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pretty interesting oh and you and his he

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said for example we found up early in

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the vietnam war that the Russians were

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practicing remote viewing and spending

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millions of rubles on it and that was

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driving our intelligence people nuts

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because they didn't know what it was so

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first they had to find out and so they

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but the I'm not sure if this is the guy

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they tested or not but let me just read

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this section to you uh let's see

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they got a hold of them they drove to

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downtown Palo Alto I'm parked on a

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corner and told him to bring a phone not

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to tell anybody where he was and and not

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make up his mind Andrey what's a park

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till I got there just parking wait to

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hear from us or the instructions then

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they brought in go in and they said tell

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us where John Brown is that was it so

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Ingo sat down and started drawing and

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then he drew a mcdonalds on one corner a

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gas station on another and a public

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library on another an Ingo said that is

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where he is he didn't know the town so

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he didn't know where this was but he

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described site so they got on the phone

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they called John Brown and asked him

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where he was and he sat on the corner of

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Fifth and main further mention

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mentioning a McDonald's a shell station

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and a public library right over there

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now that's pretty wild no I wasn't there

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and I'm always very skeptical but I mean

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this guy drew a picture of an

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intersection and what was on three of

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the quarters of the intersection

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anything else and you know that leaves

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me wondering how did he do that you know

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the how-to is what tends to drive

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scientists nuts but and it wasn't

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exactly a live study and it wasn't

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conditions but it's credible you know

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and I have no problem believing it now

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some of the other things that I read on

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remote viewing was to look at it from

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the nose from the notion of the passage

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of time I mean think about it a TV show

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that was on 30 years ago is passing

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through space now we can shorten that

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interval to something that happened a

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few seconds ago and that man image 2 is

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passing through space even if it only

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happened you know what you know one

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I scan kind of quickly said remote

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viewing could simply

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be receiving those images and and then

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you know drawing a picture now we still

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have the question of you know how do you

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sort of dial in to that you know if I

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ask you to I mean there's a bazillion

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pictures floating around right

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everything going on anywhere that's

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reflecting light is generating a picture

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so how this fella for example you know

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picked John Brown out of six or seven

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people six or seven billion people is

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beyond me but it gave me a slightly less

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skeptical viewing a view of remote

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viewing and i will see if i can find

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some more I thought that was pretty cool

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and once again a really good question

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and I'm glad I'm glad someone asked past

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it but me uh whenever you hear a bit of

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silence just because I'm flopping around

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let's see wasn't Ingo saw involved and

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revoke mule and yeah he was his ameribag

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was I guess he was from I might have my

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facts mixed up here but he might have

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been from from Russia but apparently he

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was good at it and maybe that's part of

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the deal maybe some folks have a real

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gift for this and other folks you know

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simply don't but I really enjoyed

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reading that and by the way if you want

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a copy of the entire talk which is I

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don't know five or ten pages pages long

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I'm sorry my allergies are making it

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hard to talk uh if you'll contact the

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show or you can just send an email to

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live psych @ mail.com or put something

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in the chat room what it will find you

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I'd be happy to email it to you if you

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want to read the entire text of his talk

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okay a depression last week I want to

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make sure that we did talk about this

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week and major it's you know we have

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major depressive episodes which is the

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correct term

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for when a person has episode but the

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arching term is major depressive

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disorder that's the term we would use in

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the in the field okay now in a lot of

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disorders we require a certain amount of

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time to pass before we give a person a

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diagnosis for example in generalized

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anxiety disorder a person has to exhibit

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symptoms for six months but that makes

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sense you know we go through bad times

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in our lives and maybe the person is

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just going through a bad time a divorce

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a death the problem at work financial

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issues and they do tend to resolve so

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you know we feel that if the person

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still has the same symptoms in six

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months then maybe this does rise to the

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level of a disorder but major to set the

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press of this order is it is a little

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bit different because the onset is so

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rapid now I do want to mention that no

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matter where you go on the planet this

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is the most common disorder okay maybe

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that'll be the question I'll ask for a

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contest so keep that fact in your head

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okay the most common disorder on the

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planet is depression and run round nine

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percent if you add all the depressions

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together but I don't think major

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depressive disorder is more than seven

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or eight percent but that's still let's

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tell a pretty high number and it's still

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pretty amazing that it is the most

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common disorder anywhere on the planet

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because there are disorders that we have

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in North America for example that don't

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exist anywhere else and there's the

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orders bizarre ones that occur in some

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cultures that don't happen here but this

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one seems hat everywhere anyway what we

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are looking for a major depressive

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disorder is is that for a two-week

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period and two weeks isn't that long

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okay that a person now what I'm reading

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from is is a kind of the Bible of a

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diagnostic psychology in psychology

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psychiatry it's the it's called a DES

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I'm you might have heard of it it's a

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diagnostic and statistic manual and it

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gives us the diagnostic criteria for

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every disorder and the statistics

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forward and a new one just came out

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about two years ago and it's kind of a

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big deal because they only come out with

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new ones about every about every 10

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years they do these revisions once in a

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while but this was new and there were a

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lot of differences maybe we can talk

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about that at a different time anyway

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for a two-week period it's time the

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person that plays displays an increase

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in the pressed mood for the majority of

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each day and or a decrease in enjoyment

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or interest across most activities for

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the majority of each day so a decrease

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in interest for examples called

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avolition a person does doesn't want to

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do anything or they find that they don't

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experience joy in life life has become

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bland something you just try to get

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through now for the same two weeks the

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person also experienced at least three

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of the four the following symptoms and

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we often have these in checklist and you

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got to have several you know of these so

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they could include considerable weight

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change or appetite change some folks

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when they're depressed they find that

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eating as a self comforting behavior so

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they gain weight and and a folks find

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that when they're depressed their

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appetite just gets cut off they're not

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hungry at all they could have insomnia

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they have terrible trouble sleeping but

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what is more typical is hypersomnia

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which is a tendency to want to sleep all

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of the time and sleep doesn't seem to

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very refreshing a person can sleep 8 10

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20 hours and wake up and there's totally

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p that would be high in agavia another

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symptom could be daily agitation or

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decrease in motor activity and in this

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case slowing down quite a bit now a

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decrease in motor activity is far more

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common than agitation because depression

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is just that it's a

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depression it's a lessening of activity

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daily fatiguer lethargy I would always

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be surprised to have a client or a

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patient complaining of depression who

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didn't complain of fatigue and lethargy

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another symptom would be daily feelings

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of worthlessness or excessive guilt that

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sense of worthlessness which tends to be

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conjoined with the sense of hopelessness

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hopelessness are very very common people

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that are depressed feel like they're

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never going to feel better again that

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they are at the bottom of a very deep

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black hole and they're never going to

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see light again so if a P if a person's

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going to have three or four symptoms I

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would expect to see that one another

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symptom is a daily reduction in

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concentration or decisiveness the decree

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the reduction concentration is fairly

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common and then we have repeated focus

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on death or suicide not as common now

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suicide is certainly a risk and

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depression I don't think it's as high

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risk as most people would think but

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there is an increased risk in suicide

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because of the hopelessness and you know

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people that have been through a major

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depressive episode know exactly what I'm

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talking about you get three four or five

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months into this and you know you get

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tired of it it wears a person down and

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that sense of I am never going to feel

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better life is worthless there is no

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hope is going to increase the risk of

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suicide however we have to keep in mind

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that this person with or without

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depression may also have already had

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suicidal ideation so you know we're not

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sure which causes which but if we had a

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person that already had suicidal

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ideation and then becomes the press we

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would be very concerned about a patient

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like that and then so those those are a

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list of symptoms we're looking at the

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road

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and we usually find at least three or

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four that's the fire in the most common

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and if you've been going through a bad

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period and you're wondering you know if

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you might have depression the symptoms

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that I would be looking forward

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particular would be the fatigue the

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constant sleepiness a sense of of

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helplessness and worthlessness and

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possibly guilt lethargy the inability to

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feel joy and abolition the feeling that

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I just don't want to do anything a lot

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of people report that when they're going

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through a depression they just want to

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be in bed and depression causes a lot of

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damage you know I have seen this so many

430
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times people fall into a depression and

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they stop doing things unfortunately

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they stop doing the things they need to

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do to have a successful life so that the

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relationships could fall apart they

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might lose their job and in extreme

436
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cases they might find themselves

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homeless and a very important part of

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therapy is to try to prevent this

439
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collateral damage from happening to give

440
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the person you know some tactics and and

441
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some idea of how to get through this

442
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major depressive disorder tends to go

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away in six months and most people

444
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whether you treat it or not and that may

445
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ask you to you no wonder well why the

446
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hell treat it it's going to go away on

447
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its own well the reason we traded is

448
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that if we don't treat it a person might

449
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go through all this damage their their

450
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relationships might be ruined they might

451
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lose their job they might lose their

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home they might become hopeless and the

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other thing is that the you know the

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relationship with the with the proviso

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generally we treat depression with both

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medication and with with with therapy

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but I think that as soon as you feel

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that you probably do have depression

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it's really important to go see if

460
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doctor as soon as you can I'd prefer you

461
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see a psychiatrist go this is what they

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do but doctors are used to treating this

463
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too it will have no problem giving you

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an antidepressant now you have to be

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patient some people start feeling better

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within a few weeks and for some folks it

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could take up to two months such thing

468
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of running the same result but that

469
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means that anywhere from three to five

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or more months of of some relief and

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then hopefully you know you're a typical

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case and your depression will resolve

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and you can come off that the pearly the

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presents a small amount of people have

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what we call treatment resistant

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depression and they have to be on

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medications in many cases for the rest

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of their life because their brain simply

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won't relearn how to use a very

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important neurotransmitter called

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serotonin so if you if you've had one

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incidence of depression then you are

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more likely to have a second incidence

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of depression so that's that's pretty

485
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important now do you have thing called

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persistent the best disorder and this is

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a personal experience the symptoms of

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major form of the rest for at least two

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years now this is part of what we used

490
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to call dysthymia if you can imagine

491
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normalcy ok and then let's say we drop

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down 10 units and we're at major

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depression and if we go up 10 units

494
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we're at hyper mania well let's say we

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went down only five units ok that would

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be sort of like mild depression if that

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goes on for two years or more we call

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that dusty Mia or now we might call

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persistent depressive disorder there are

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flavors of depression and dysthymia or

501
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persistent depressive disorder is where

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a person has mild depression for two

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years and this is a little more

504
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complicated you know

505
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sure that depression is almost entirely

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biological what happens is that you know

507
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almost overnight your brain forgets how

508
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to how to use serotonin and a real quick

509
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explanation of that is that neurons

510
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essentially spit out serotonin and it

511
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leaves that serotonin out there long

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enough for the next neuron to notice it

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so that it fires but there's some left

514
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over and the leftover gets sucked up

515
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into the neuron that fired it kind of

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like turning on a vacuum cleaner and we

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call that reuptake well in depression

518
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what happens is that the neuron spits

519
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out a little bit of serotonin and then

520
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the vacuum cleaner comes on too fast so

521
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the reuptake gets a little out of whack

522
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so there's not enough serotonin sitting

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out there for the next set of fire so

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all these cells don't fire and when and

525
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when we don't have enough serotonin at

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work then we develop a depression and

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what the medications do is they try to

528
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fix that reuptake and that's why

529
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medications are called SSRIs selective

530
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serotonin reuptake inhibitor selectively

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means it works with serotonin serotonin

532
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means it is serotonin and reuptake

533
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inhibitor means that we make that vacuum

534
00:27:02,380 --> 00:26:59,270
cleaner switch wait just a little while

535
00:27:04,360 --> 00:27:02,390
longer so that that serotonin can sit

536
00:27:07,990 --> 00:27:04,370
out there long enough for the next cell

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to fire and and you know it seems like

538
00:27:16,090 --> 00:27:11,780
the bottle of the newer imitations work

539
00:27:18,370 --> 00:27:16,100
faster and work better and some of them

540
00:27:22,690 --> 00:27:18,380
work for quite a few things there's a

541
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medication called fluvoxamine maleate

542
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but the brand name is luvox it works

543
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:28,760
well for depression it works well for

544
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compulsive worrying which is sort of

545
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fifty percent of OCD and it works well

546
00:27:43,150 --> 00:27:38,990
for for anxieties some doctors are using

547
00:27:45,460 --> 00:27:43,160
it more maybe than they used to it it's

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around for 10 or 12 years which in our

549
00:27:51,580 --> 00:27:47,870
field isn't very long at all but you

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might get you know you might get any of

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00:28:02,920 --> 00:27:57,820
the other ssris such as gosh tan Oh

552
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:02,930
effexor might be one prozac they're just

553
00:28:08,020 --> 00:28:05,690
a whole bunch of them out there but the

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newer ones seem to work better and they

555
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:10,400
seem to have a fewer side effects side

556
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:14,090
effects can be can be pretty bad i think

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00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:16,970
the the side effect initially you'll

558
00:28:20,860 --> 00:28:18,530
just feel like you have the flu for

559
00:28:24,190 --> 00:28:20,870
about two weeks but one side effect that

560
00:28:27,610 --> 00:28:24,200
people complain a lot is a market a

561
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rabid and deep decrease in libido which

562
00:28:32,590 --> 00:28:29,420
means they don't want to have sex

563
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:32,600
anymore and it's hard to complete the

564
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:36,410
sex act so some of these newer drugs

565
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:40,930
either that side effects isn't as bad or

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after a month or two you get past it so

567
00:28:50,830 --> 00:28:47,840
that's helping a little bit because fur

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00:28:52,270 --> 00:28:50,840
and relationships that support and we

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talked about that a little bit and

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that'll be a topic again at some point

571
00:29:02,470 --> 00:28:58,660
but that covers major depressive episode

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00:29:05,050 --> 00:29:02,480
if you aren't sure then why don't you

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00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:05,060
get a hold of me through one of the many

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00:29:15,900 --> 00:29:08,450
ways that I've talked about or pop up

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00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:15,910
something on the the chat site or are I

576
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:19,370
tell you what we need to take a break so

577
00:29:24,610 --> 00:29:21,290
when we come back I'll give you some

578
00:29:28,030 --> 00:29:24,620
other ways to to contact me if you have

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00:29:30,130 --> 00:29:28,040
questions so we'll take a break here for

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a minute or two and I'll be back in just

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hello Irene listeners this is MJ saying

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folks okay I just want to finish up with

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00:33:49,639 --> 00:33:46,809
uh I was just talking to MJ about the

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best way for folks to get ahold of me

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00:33:59,039 --> 00:33:53,789
for almost anything you can always email

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inception radio network com and ask them

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to forward an email to me what we're

650
00:34:04,710 --> 00:34:02,409
going to do is we're going to switch to

651
00:34:09,569 --> 00:34:04,720
a gmail email for me and i'll have that

652
00:34:11,159 --> 00:34:09,579
next week and but to get back to the

653
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other topic you know if you have a

654
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question or if you're wondering if you

655
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have depression and you want to ask a

656
00:34:19,980 --> 00:34:17,500
few questions just go to psychologies

657
00:34:22,889 --> 00:34:19,990
outer limits and leave me a message okay

658
00:34:24,450 --> 00:34:22,899
and then i'll i'll private message you

659
00:34:27,149 --> 00:34:24,460
with a phone number or how to get a hold

660
00:34:29,190 --> 00:34:27,159
of me and that that would be the best

661
00:34:33,419 --> 00:34:29,200
way to do that the next week we'll have

662
00:34:36,030 --> 00:34:33,429
a better gmail address that we can use

663
00:34:39,359 --> 00:34:36,040
but don't be shy about you know reaching

664
00:34:42,750 --> 00:34:39,369
out if if you want a little bit advice i

665
00:34:45,000 --> 00:34:42,760
am more than happy to do that okay all

666
00:34:47,609 --> 00:34:45,010
right now let's let's let's go over to

667
00:34:51,599 --> 00:34:47,619
our news for the week and our articles

668
00:34:53,940 --> 00:34:51,609
and things like that see let me open up

669
00:34:56,639 --> 00:34:53,950
that oh by the way last week a couple

670
00:35:00,210 --> 00:34:56,649
people said you know the show should be

671
00:35:01,559 --> 00:35:00,220
longer and that was flying I mean that

672
00:35:03,840 --> 00:35:01,569
was certainly a nice thing to hear

673
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:03,850
because when you first start a show I'm

674
00:35:08,700 --> 00:35:06,610
on my third episode you know you spent a

675
00:35:10,500 --> 00:35:08,710
lot of time thinking oh gosh I wonder if

676
00:35:13,010 --> 00:35:10,510
I suck so hearing someone say there

677
00:35:16,950 --> 00:35:13,020
should be at least a half hour longer

678
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:16,960
and part of it is that I you know of I

679
00:35:21,830 --> 00:35:19,210
think we have 29 shows i think i may be

680
00:35:24,630 --> 00:35:21,840
the only person that does the whole show

681
00:35:27,090 --> 00:35:24,640
alone I don't have the guests so that

682
00:35:30,420 --> 00:35:27,100
doesn't you know sort of give me a break

683
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:30,430
in I'll have a part of bounce off of so

684
00:35:35,610 --> 00:35:33,610
I spend a fair amount of time during the

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00:35:39,660 --> 00:35:35,620
week making sure I have enough material

686
00:35:41,850 --> 00:35:39,670
for 30 minutes but the show will grow to

687
00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:41,860
90 minutes i mean i'm pretty certain to

688
00:35:47,040 --> 00:35:44,290
that I just haven't decided if i want to

689
00:35:50,430 --> 00:35:47,050
go to 90 minutes of how i do it now or

690
00:35:51,630 --> 00:35:50,440
have a guess the last half hour if we

691
00:35:53,520 --> 00:35:51,640
get to the point that we get a lot of

692
00:35:55,170 --> 00:35:53,530
phone calls that would certainly make it

693
00:35:57,780 --> 00:35:55,180
easier but it's going to take the show

694
00:35:59,850 --> 00:35:57,790
time to develop an audience but to

695
00:36:02,220 --> 00:35:59,860
respond to that you know i mean i love

696
00:36:07,620 --> 00:36:02,230
doing it i agree with it I'd to get out

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00:36:10,290 --> 00:36:07,630
to not in it my my you know this time

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00:36:12,990 --> 00:36:10,300
Peter number not teaching very much but

699
00:36:15,570 --> 00:36:13,000
during the fall i teach seven classes

700
00:36:19,230 --> 00:36:15,580
and i'm not sure how i could chase down

701
00:36:23,250 --> 00:36:19,240
guests for shows you know what when i'm

702
00:36:26,310 --> 00:36:23,260
quite that busy but anyway let's first

703
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:26,320
of all I want to get to some of these

704
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:28,090
articles because I found some really

705
00:36:34,470 --> 00:36:31,050
cool stuff to talk about this week and

706
00:36:37,950 --> 00:36:34,480
I'm hoping that you know somebody calls

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00:36:40,950 --> 00:36:37,960
in in order to to win the prize and

708
00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:40,960
again i lost the phone number how do I

709
00:36:46,380 --> 00:36:43,690
keep doing that all right I'll get in

710
00:36:49,820 --> 00:36:46,390
just a moment but I'd like to have you

711
00:36:52,950 --> 00:36:49,830
call in to win the price may be e MJ can

712
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:52,960
pass the phone no more I thought I'm

713
00:36:58,140 --> 00:36:54,330
wrong to meet you here at the moment

714
00:37:03,420 --> 00:36:58,150
I'll get better to my articles okay

715
00:37:05,760 --> 00:37:03,430
let's see um let's start with this one I

716
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:05,770
thought was really okay here's the phone

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00:37:14,580 --> 00:37:07,570
number I'm going to tattoo it on the

718
00:37:16,740 --> 00:37:14,590
back of my hand 8 8 8 9 192 355 okay so

719
00:37:17,819 --> 00:37:16,750
when i get to the contest part i'm going

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00:37:19,319 --> 00:37:17,829
to ask a question and

721
00:37:20,789 --> 00:37:19,329
it's a really easy question because I've

722
00:37:22,229 --> 00:37:20,799
already told you the most common

723
00:37:24,809 --> 00:37:22,239
disorder in the planet is major

724
00:37:28,979 --> 00:37:24,819
depression okay so you're going to dial

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00:37:31,709 --> 00:37:28,989
8 8 8 9 19 2 3 5 5 and if you're the

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00:37:35,009 --> 00:37:31,719
first caller then you will win the price

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00:37:38,489 --> 00:37:35,019
and when we get there I'll tell you how

728
00:37:40,079 --> 00:37:38,499
to collect it up ok now let's I want the

729
00:37:42,779 --> 00:37:40,089
first article I wanted to talk about was

730
00:37:45,989 --> 00:37:42,789
the color red I think this is really

731
00:37:50,219 --> 00:37:45,999
interesting read that article is called

732
00:37:52,259 --> 00:37:50,229
red is a warning color in nature and I

733
00:37:54,059 --> 00:37:52,269
suppose it is though when I see red

734
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:54,069
birds and things I think they're all

735
00:37:58,739 --> 00:37:56,890
pretty bunny what I write is a war one

736
00:38:02,269 --> 00:37:58,749
color in nature and can affect

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00:38:04,829 --> 00:38:02,279
perceptions and human social groups too

738
00:38:08,249 --> 00:38:04,839
they start out with men who wear red

739
00:38:10,469 --> 00:38:08,259
clothes send out a signal that they are

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00:38:12,269 --> 00:38:10,479
angry and aggressive in much the same

741
00:38:15,089 --> 00:38:12,279
way as if their face had reddened

742
00:38:17,249 --> 00:38:15,099
suggests research published by Durham

743
00:38:20,190 --> 00:38:17,259
University in England now I don't know

744
00:38:23,099 --> 00:38:20,200
if that means they purposefully wear red

745
00:38:25,829 --> 00:38:23,109
clothes or if they unconsciously red

746
00:38:27,539 --> 00:38:25,839
clothes or if they randomly war him and

747
00:38:29,819 --> 00:38:27,549
then realize that we're going to do that

748
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:29,829
anyway they did an experiment because

749
00:38:35,219 --> 00:38:31,930
that's what you know we do in college as

750
00:38:37,589 --> 00:38:35,229
we do experiments and fifty male and 50

751
00:38:40,380 --> 00:38:37,599
female volunteers were showed images of

752
00:38:43,380 --> 00:38:40,390
men and different colored t-shirts and

753
00:38:46,529 --> 00:38:43,390
they raided those wearing red as more

754
00:38:48,630 --> 00:38:46,539
aggressive and angry than those in blue

755
00:38:51,749 --> 00:38:48,640
or gray kind of wish that use more

756
00:38:54,089 --> 00:38:51,759
colors however while the male volunteers

757
00:38:57,479 --> 00:38:54,099
also tended to considered men wearing

758
00:39:00,390 --> 00:38:57,489
red is dominant the female volunteers

759
00:39:04,140 --> 00:39:00,400
did not know it's not interesting female

760
00:39:09,870 --> 00:39:04,150
volunteers saw men wearing red t-shirts

761
00:39:13,199 --> 00:39:09,880
as aggressive and angry okay males saw

762
00:39:16,729 --> 00:39:13,209
them pretty much the same but also as

763
00:39:19,829 --> 00:39:16,739
dominant so the color dominant tells a

764
00:39:23,130 --> 00:39:19,839
male that the other males dominant and

765
00:39:25,559 --> 00:39:23,140
it tends to tell females that the male

766
00:39:27,689 --> 00:39:25,569
is aggressive and this kind of reminds

767
00:39:31,019 --> 00:39:27,699
me of that whole craze back in the 80s

768
00:39:31,859 --> 00:39:31,029
of the of the the Power Lunch that was

769
00:39:34,049 --> 00:39:31,869
such a big

770
00:39:37,079 --> 00:39:34,059
ill and then power ties you know every

771
00:39:39,529 --> 00:39:37,089
guy was wearing a red tie and even the

772
00:39:42,089 --> 00:39:39,539
people on TV everybody had a red tie on

773
00:39:43,739 --> 00:39:42,099
and that was sort of their symbols so

774
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:43,749
maybe that maybe there was something to

775
00:39:49,259 --> 00:39:45,249
that you know everybody wanted to be the

776
00:39:52,109 --> 00:39:49,269
alpha male anyway the article goes on

777
00:39:54,900 --> 00:39:52,119
read often signals aggression and

778
00:39:57,239 --> 00:39:54,910
animals and the tendency for men to turn

779
00:39:59,579 --> 00:39:57,249
red faced when they're angry is believed

780
00:40:02,880 --> 00:39:59,589
to be inherited from our ancient

781
00:40:05,160 --> 00:40:02,890
ancestors is a warning sign and some

782
00:40:09,089 --> 00:40:05,170
animal species red may be displayed by

783
00:40:11,549 --> 00:40:09,099
competing males during mating rituals I

784
00:40:15,539 --> 00:40:11,559
thought that was pretty interesting we

785
00:40:17,249 --> 00:40:15,549
know ms wide Weidman who conducted the

786
00:40:20,220 --> 00:40:17,259
experiment said we know that the color

787
00:40:21,930 --> 00:40:20,230
red has an effect on the human brain so

788
00:40:23,970 --> 00:40:21,940
that tells us that it's kind of hard

789
00:40:27,690 --> 00:40:23,980
wired you know and it feeds into my bias

790
00:40:29,759 --> 00:40:27,700
of a biological basis as a behavior the

791
00:40:31,859 --> 00:40:29,769
implications of our research or that

792
00:40:34,950 --> 00:40:31,869
people may wish to think carefully about

793
00:40:37,739 --> 00:40:34,960
wearing red in social situations and

794
00:40:40,079 --> 00:40:37,749
perhaps important meetings such as job

795
00:40:42,359 --> 00:40:40,089
interviews now see that makes sense in a

796
00:40:43,950 --> 00:40:42,369
job interview I don't know that you want

797
00:40:46,559 --> 00:40:43,960
to come off as aggressive and less

798
00:40:49,349 --> 00:40:46,569
aggression is really important in that

799
00:40:51,509 --> 00:40:49,359
particular interview I think we want to

800
00:40:53,819 --> 00:40:51,519
let the interviewer be in charge being

801
00:40:55,579 --> 00:40:53,829
perceived as aggressive or dominant may

802
00:40:58,799 --> 00:40:55,589
be an advantage in some circumstances

803
00:41:01,319 --> 00:40:58,809
but a disadvantage and others for

804
00:41:03,749 --> 00:41:01,329
example when teamwork or trustworthiness

805
00:41:05,549 --> 00:41:03,759
is important and as I'm readiness I'm

806
00:41:08,970 --> 00:41:05,559
trying to think of how often I see

807
00:41:12,660 --> 00:41:08,980
people wearing red shirts and it doesn't

808
00:41:15,569 --> 00:41:12,670
seem to me like it's very often and I'm

809
00:41:17,579 --> 00:41:15,579
just I don't know I I love wearing red

810
00:41:20,279 --> 00:41:17,589
t-shirts but that's probably because

811
00:41:23,729 --> 00:41:20,289
sometime a long time ago someone told me

812
00:41:26,430 --> 00:41:23,739
that I look like the red t-shirts but I

813
00:41:28,319 --> 00:41:26,440
don't you know I see people like the

814
00:41:31,739 --> 00:41:28,329
other professors at work tend to wear

815
00:41:33,299 --> 00:41:31,749
white shirts or sort of bland shirts but

816
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:33,309
i don't know maybe we're kind of blind

817
00:41:37,289 --> 00:41:35,650
people but it but you know it's kind of

818
00:41:39,539 --> 00:41:37,299
an interesting tactic you know think

819
00:41:42,450 --> 00:41:39,549
about situations you're going into and

820
00:41:45,630 --> 00:41:42,460
when wearing a red shirt being advantage

821
00:41:48,660 --> 00:41:45,640
you'll want to give off the aura

822
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:48,670
being in charge and aggressive or you or

823
00:41:53,519 --> 00:41:51,130
if you want to be more of a team member

824
00:41:57,089 --> 00:41:53,529
maybe you should wear you know a lighter

825
00:42:03,960 --> 00:41:57,099
colored shirt it is at least something

826
00:42:07,829 --> 00:42:03,970
to think about okay and we did that we

827
00:42:09,960 --> 00:42:07,839
talked about the brain okay this article

828
00:42:13,589 --> 00:42:09,970
to me was interested me one of the

829
00:42:15,720 --> 00:42:13,599
things that as counselors talked about

830
00:42:18,299 --> 00:42:15,730
in almost you know every session when

831
00:42:21,269 --> 00:42:18,309
we're collecting information and it can

832
00:42:23,849 --> 00:42:21,279
take two or three sessions to collect up

833
00:42:26,549 --> 00:42:23,859
information from a client because we

834
00:42:28,529 --> 00:42:26,559
need a history but at the same time we

835
00:42:30,390 --> 00:42:28,539
really need to let people get things off

836
00:42:33,779 --> 00:42:30,400
their chest you know I use the allow a

837
00:42:36,390 --> 00:42:33,789
client you know to full sessions to just

838
00:42:39,539 --> 00:42:36,400
tell their story but I try to collect

839
00:42:42,420 --> 00:42:39,549
collect a little history you know when I

840
00:42:44,250 --> 00:42:42,430
can sneak it in but if the person is in

841
00:42:46,410 --> 00:42:44,260
a relationship one of the things i do

842
00:42:49,710 --> 00:42:46,420
want to know is to be blunt are you

843
00:42:51,809 --> 00:42:49,720
having sex and if yet how often I'm

844
00:42:55,410 --> 00:42:51,819
prized and how often people don't commit

845
00:42:59,789 --> 00:42:55,420
a yes we have sex every several months

846
00:43:02,460 --> 00:42:59,799
or be an elite or stay I get last time

847
00:43:04,700 --> 00:43:02,470
we had sex and set is important in

848
00:43:07,620 --> 00:43:04,710
relationships it's important

849
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:07,630
biologically we produce oxytocin which

850
00:43:13,490 --> 00:43:11,410
is a bonding chemical and it's important

851
00:43:16,170 --> 00:43:13,500
in keeping human beings together and

852
00:43:18,599 --> 00:43:16,180
keeping human beings together is kind of

853
00:43:22,890 --> 00:43:18,609
good for society and it helps keep the

854
00:43:25,349 --> 00:43:22,900
planet populated but this one study cast

855
00:43:28,319 --> 00:43:25,359
doubt on the theory that the more sex we

856
00:43:31,109 --> 00:43:28,329
have the happier we are now I don't know

857
00:43:33,329 --> 00:43:31,119
what they mean by more I'm usually happy

858
00:43:36,390 --> 00:43:33,339
if a couple says they're having sex once

859
00:43:38,849 --> 00:43:36,400
a week and and you know it's really hard

860
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:38,859
to trust the tix to statistics because

861
00:43:43,319 --> 00:43:40,690
you got to wonder how they gather done

862
00:43:45,420 --> 00:43:43,329
but you know the average couple that's

863
00:43:48,390 --> 00:43:45,430
happy in their marriage is having sex

864
00:43:54,390 --> 00:43:48,400
two to three times a week and I think

865
00:43:56,640 --> 00:43:54,400
that's pretty good anyway this the study

866
00:43:58,920 --> 00:43:56,650
found that people who had sex once a

867
00:44:00,930 --> 00:43:58,930
week or forty four percent

868
00:44:03,720 --> 00:44:00,940
more like to report a higher level of

869
00:44:06,420 --> 00:44:03,730
happiness compared with peers who had no

870
00:44:08,099 --> 00:44:06,430
sex in the previous year well it's kind

871
00:44:11,069 --> 00:44:08,109
of a no-brainer getting sex is better

872
00:44:12,990 --> 00:44:11,079
than no sex and people who had sex up to

873
00:44:15,089 --> 00:44:13,000
three times a week worth fifty five

874
00:44:18,809 --> 00:44:15,099
percent more likely to report higher

875
00:44:21,260 --> 00:44:18,819
levels of happiness okay so we know that

876
00:44:23,700 --> 00:44:21,270
people don't have an exact copy or

877
00:44:26,190 --> 00:44:23,710
having sex and again that as a sick

878
00:44:27,839 --> 00:44:26,200
research I know some of you are slapping

879
00:44:29,640 --> 00:44:27,849
yourselves on the forehead saying yeah

880
00:44:34,230 --> 00:44:29,650
well you know that kind of makes sense

881
00:44:37,670 --> 00:44:34,240
sex is fun and if you have it now in

882
00:44:43,020 --> 00:44:37,680
this particular study this was done in

883
00:44:45,809 --> 00:44:43,030
2013 the researchers behind the study

884
00:44:49,079 --> 00:44:45,819
recruited 128 healthy married

885
00:44:52,079 --> 00:44:49,089
individuals between the ages of 35 and

886
00:44:54,109 --> 00:44:52,089
65 who were you know they were in

887
00:44:58,770 --> 00:44:54,119
relationships in an attempt to

888
00:45:02,040 --> 00:44:58,780
investigate a sexual frequency effects

889
00:45:04,829 --> 00:45:02,050
happiness and frequency means how often

890
00:45:06,930 --> 00:45:04,839
not how fast ok so the couples were

891
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:06,940
randomly assigned either a group that

892
00:45:13,289 --> 00:45:09,010
was asked to double the frequency of

893
00:45:15,329 --> 00:45:13,299
their weekly sexual intercourse or they

894
00:45:17,910 --> 00:45:15,339
were basically put in a control group

895
00:45:20,579 --> 00:45:17,920
that received no instructions at all so

896
00:45:23,010 --> 00:45:20,589
let's say that you know you had sex

897
00:45:26,039 --> 00:45:23,020
twice a week ok you were now asked to

898
00:45:28,470 --> 00:45:26,049
have sex four times a week and then the

899
00:45:33,270 --> 00:45:28,480
other group was said you know carry on

900
00:45:36,839 --> 00:45:33,280
so the couple also completed online

901
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:36,849
questionnaires measuring variables

902
00:45:42,329 --> 00:45:39,450
having to do with health behaviors

903
00:45:46,260 --> 00:45:42,339
happiness levels occurrence and all that

904
00:45:49,260 --> 00:45:46,270
and the research team found that the

905
00:45:52,069 --> 00:45:49,270
couple's instructed to have sex more

906
00:45:55,049 --> 00:45:52,079
recorded a small decrease in happiness

907
00:45:58,289 --> 00:45:55,059
lower sexual desire and decreased

908
00:46:01,470 --> 00:45:58,299
enjoyment for sex however the receipt

909
00:46:03,660 --> 00:46:01,480
the researchers believe that this

910
00:46:06,930 --> 00:46:03,670
lowered happiness was not simply caused

911
00:46:09,780 --> 00:46:06,940
by having more sex but by the fact that

912
00:46:12,300 --> 00:46:09,790
couples required to have more sex so

913
00:46:15,090 --> 00:46:12,310
that's that's a variable and

914
00:46:18,150 --> 00:46:15,100
study that troubles me because you know

915
00:46:22,290 --> 00:46:18,160
artificial situations create artificial

916
00:46:24,060 --> 00:46:22,300
behaviors the authors it is noted still

917
00:46:27,900 --> 00:46:24,070
believe the couples do not have enough

918
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:27,910
sex and I agree with that and you know

919
00:46:32,910 --> 00:46:30,370
it's it's never because of some big

920
00:46:35,400 --> 00:46:32,920
thing it's always because of all these

921
00:46:37,830 --> 00:46:35,410
little tiny resentments to build up over

922
00:46:40,110 --> 00:46:37,840
the days and weeks and months because

923
00:46:41,940 --> 00:46:40,120
when you ask you know if I'm doing

924
00:46:44,160 --> 00:46:41,950
counseling with someone and I asked them

925
00:46:45,360 --> 00:46:44,170
but why aren't you having sex you know

926
00:46:48,390 --> 00:46:45,370
they don't say well we had a big

927
00:46:50,910 --> 00:46:48,400
argument last week or you know he

928
00:46:53,610 --> 00:46:50,920
doesn't put the toilet lid back down

929
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:53,620
they're usually out of loss and what it

930
00:46:59,010 --> 00:46:55,690
is it's you know it's an accumulation of

931
00:47:01,700 --> 00:46:59,020
lots of little resentments okay that's

932
00:47:04,620 --> 00:47:01,710
one and the other is that you know

933
00:47:06,300 --> 00:47:04,630
especially young couples which order and

934
00:47:09,260 --> 00:47:06,310
they're tired when they go to that and

935
00:47:12,690 --> 00:47:09,270
their inclination is to go to sleep

936
00:47:15,840 --> 00:47:12,700
sympathique plays a role boredom plays

937
00:47:19,230 --> 00:47:15,850
on a roll and fortunately you lyin

938
00:47:24,150 --> 00:47:19,240
pornography play Israel I probably might

939
00:47:25,860 --> 00:47:24,160
save that for a separate topic and you

940
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:25,870
know in counseling what we tell people

941
00:47:31,290 --> 00:47:28,530
do first just to get them back on track

942
00:47:33,900 --> 00:47:31,300
is you know we'll make a date and no

943
00:47:35,910 --> 00:47:33,910
matter how tired you are you know have

944
00:47:39,540 --> 00:47:35,920
sex that evening this does not have to

945
00:47:42,240 --> 00:47:39,550
be a marathon the thing this can did

946
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:42,250
this can be a quickie you know just have

947
00:47:47,430 --> 00:47:45,610
sex because you know we find and we know

948
00:47:49,110 --> 00:47:47,440
and I think it's a common sex notion

949
00:47:52,740 --> 00:47:49,120
that once people get started they get

950
00:47:54,660 --> 00:47:52,750
interested and and they and they enjoy

951
00:47:57,960 --> 00:47:54,670
it it's the getting started that seems

952
00:48:00,030 --> 00:47:57,970
to be the problem and now it's

953
00:48:02,850 --> 00:48:00,040
encouraging you know that couples that

954
00:48:05,610 --> 00:48:02,860
are happy you know are having sex but i

955
00:48:08,430 --> 00:48:05,620
think that's that's the big variable are

956
00:48:10,980 --> 00:48:08,440
they happy and and are they putting the

957
00:48:13,890 --> 00:48:10,990
effort into making sure that all aspects

958
00:48:16,170 --> 00:48:13,900
of their marriage are going well they're

959
00:48:17,940 --> 00:48:16,180
communicating well they're taking care

960
00:48:23,970 --> 00:48:17,950
of each other they're doing the little

961
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:23,980
things that show affection and saying i

962
00:48:28,230 --> 00:48:25,690
love you and all those things

963
00:48:32,340 --> 00:48:28,240
but that tends to fall off after the

964
00:48:36,570 --> 00:48:32,350
initial you know that over the top I'm

965
00:48:39,930 --> 00:48:36,580
in love headiness you know goes away so

966
00:48:41,550 --> 00:48:39,940
we have to work at it I guess a good

967
00:48:43,710 --> 00:48:41,560
metaphor is that when you buy a plant

968
00:48:46,200 --> 00:48:43,720
it's in perfect condition because the

969
00:48:47,820 --> 00:48:46,210
people you know that raise plants and

970
00:48:49,830 --> 00:48:47,830
sell them you know want them to look

971
00:48:52,590 --> 00:48:49,840
perfect but when you bring it home it

972
00:48:56,940 --> 00:48:52,600
needs sunlight it needs nourishment that

973
00:48:59,220 --> 00:48:56,950
needs water and I sometimes kid with my

974
00:49:01,440 --> 00:48:59,230
students and with my clients that you

975
00:49:04,230 --> 00:49:01,450
know you take better care of your plant

976
00:49:09,870 --> 00:49:04,240
life your plants than you do with your

977
00:49:12,540 --> 00:49:09,880
relationship so people have to take time

978
00:49:15,540 --> 00:49:12,550
for it yes you're sleepy but you know

979
00:49:17,880 --> 00:49:15,550
surely you can set aside you know five

980
00:49:19,770 --> 00:49:17,890
or ten minutes and then it tends to be

981
00:49:21,750 --> 00:49:19,780
like a plant you know if you water it

982
00:49:25,020 --> 00:49:21,760
and grow it and you pay attention to it

983
00:49:27,780 --> 00:49:25,030
it blooms and it and it is you know

984
00:49:31,530 --> 00:49:27,790
physical intimacy is really really

985
00:49:33,210 --> 00:49:31,540
important for couples and as I said

986
00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:33,220
earlier and you know I'd be happy if

987
00:49:39,210 --> 00:49:36,490
folks were having you know sex once a

988
00:49:41,540 --> 00:49:39,220
week but you know to the three times

989
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:41,550
week is kind of what we're shooting for

990
00:49:47,190 --> 00:49:44,290
but I've had clients that were very

991
00:49:49,110 --> 00:49:47,200
happy with their sex lives I a member

992
00:49:51,270 --> 00:49:49,120
one client in particular they've been

993
00:49:54,750 --> 00:49:51,280
married for 25 years and they still may

994
00:49:57,450 --> 00:49:54,760
love every day you know and sure you can

995
00:49:59,040 --> 00:49:57,460
get stuck in a rut but you know try

996
00:50:01,680 --> 00:49:59,050
something different and i'm not talking

997
00:50:05,370 --> 00:50:01,690
about being excessively kinky but you

998
00:50:07,860 --> 00:50:05,380
know you know we go into a different

999
00:50:10,980 --> 00:50:07,870
room or to just do something different

1000
00:50:14,640 --> 00:50:10,990
you know go outside just make sure your

1001
00:50:16,500 --> 00:50:14,650
neighbors aren't watching okay anyway I

1002
00:50:18,600 --> 00:50:16,510
was a pretty interesting study but I

1003
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:18,610
think that a really important variable

1004
00:50:23,130 --> 00:50:20,410
in this study is that when we're told to

1005
00:50:25,350 --> 00:50:23,140
do something you know that does create a

1006
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:25,360
little bit of an art of artificial pneus

1007
00:50:31,050 --> 00:50:28,330
but I wanted to talk about the story

1008
00:50:34,080 --> 00:50:31,060
because it fits into a really important

1009
00:50:36,990 --> 00:50:34,090
issue in with couples which is physical

1010
00:50:39,010 --> 00:50:37,000
intimacy and we think couples grossly

1011
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:39,020
grossly

1012
00:50:45,400 --> 00:50:40,850
underestimate the importance of physical

1013
00:50:50,590 --> 00:50:45,410
intimacy in their relationship I study I

1014
00:50:53,770 --> 00:50:50,600
want to bring up here it was okay this

1015
00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:53,780
is sort of related I don't want to harp

1016
00:50:59,410 --> 00:50:55,610
on sex tonight you'll think you tuned

1017
00:51:02,500 --> 00:50:59,420
into some other some other network how

1018
00:51:07,300 --> 00:51:02,510
many times you should be having sex a

1019
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:07,310
week okay and I think this is the one

1020
00:51:14,050 --> 00:51:11,050
where they talked about let's see

1021
00:51:16,030 --> 00:51:14,060
according to couples psychotherapist and

1022
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:16,040
certified sex therapist sarah cooper

1023
00:51:21,370 --> 00:51:18,770
cooper studies have found that happy

1024
00:51:23,560 --> 00:51:21,380
couples have sex three to four times a

1025
00:51:26,320 --> 00:51:23,570
week and a lot of you were thinking oh

1026
00:51:28,750 --> 00:51:26,330
my god how would i fit that in but it's

1027
00:51:30,730 --> 00:51:28,760
because they're happy couples and happy

1028
00:51:32,710 --> 00:51:30,740
couples take good care of each other and

1029
00:51:34,360 --> 00:51:32,720
they're affectionate they hold hands

1030
00:51:36,190 --> 00:51:34,370
they say I love you and they buy each

1031
00:51:39,550 --> 00:51:36,200
other a little gifts just for the hell

1032
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:39,560
of it and that and that leads to feeling

1033
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:42,770
good and it's a lot easier to have

1034
00:51:47,530 --> 00:51:45,130
physical intimacy when you go to bed

1035
00:51:49,270 --> 00:51:47,540
than it is if you go to bed full of

1036
00:51:52,420 --> 00:51:49,280
little resentments or not feeling

1037
00:51:57,820 --> 00:51:52,430
appreciated okay let's move on from sex

1038
00:51:59,860 --> 00:51:57,830
here a little bit how to be content when

1039
00:52:01,390 --> 00:51:59,870
your life feels out of control I want to

1040
00:52:03,970 --> 00:52:01,400
make sure this is the one that I want

1041
00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:03,980
here and I've got to pay attention to

1042
00:52:16,540 --> 00:52:09,610
the clock nope that's not the one I want

1043
00:52:21,370 --> 00:52:16,550
it's similar though let's see the cute

1044
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:21,380
though yeah here it is here it is this

1045
00:52:27,820 --> 00:52:24,050
is the the wonderful human behavior that

1046
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:27,830
elevates all our morals and what this

1047
00:52:34,330 --> 00:52:30,890
article talks about is that a kindness

1048
00:52:37,990 --> 00:52:34,340
can spread surprisingly easily between

1049
00:52:39,670 --> 00:52:38,000
and among people and in my social psych

1050
00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:39,680
class we actually talked about this in

1051
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:41,330
some detail because there's been a lot

1052
00:52:46,420 --> 00:52:43,610
of experiments done just by observing

1053
00:52:48,490 --> 00:52:46,430
someone else being generous increases

1054
00:52:50,740 --> 00:52:48,500
the likelihood that will be generous and

1055
00:52:52,200 --> 00:52:50,750
you've heard of people that pay for the

1056
00:52:54,750 --> 00:52:52,210
person behind them it make

1057
00:52:56,820 --> 00:52:54,760
Donald's of that person and pays for the

1058
00:52:58,890 --> 00:52:56,830
person behind them and I've had students

1059
00:53:00,329 --> 00:52:58,900
say that this can go on for hours you

1060
00:53:02,849 --> 00:53:00,339
know it's just and that's amazing we

1061
00:53:05,970 --> 00:53:02,859
watched someone be nice so we'd be nice

1062
00:53:09,839 --> 00:53:05,980
I guess they call it you know paying it

1063
00:53:14,550 --> 00:53:09,849
forward but part part of it is rooted in

1064
00:53:17,910 --> 00:53:14,560
in human survival you know we were not

1065
00:53:20,490 --> 00:53:17,920
nice all the time just to be nice you

1066
00:53:23,609 --> 00:53:20,500
know there's something called in social

1067
00:53:26,450 --> 00:53:23,619
discourse called mutual exchange and the

1068
00:53:29,520 --> 00:53:26,460
hope is is that if in general I'm nice

1069
00:53:32,550 --> 00:53:29,530
when I turn comes around people will be

1070
00:53:34,890 --> 00:53:32,560
nice to me and I don't know do you think

1071
00:53:37,530 --> 00:53:34,900
there's enough of that do you see enough

1072
00:53:39,839 --> 00:53:37,540
niceness do you see I mean I think I do

1073
00:53:42,420 --> 00:53:39,849
I see people holding doors open for

1074
00:53:44,490 --> 00:53:42,430
people when I'm driving and I need to be

1075
00:53:46,349 --> 00:53:44,500
led into heavy traffic you know someone

1076
00:53:50,970 --> 00:53:46,359
eventually lets me and I think that's

1077
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:50,980
pretty nice I I see people volunteering

1078
00:53:55,530 --> 00:53:53,410
my students amaze me they are really

1079
00:53:58,560 --> 00:53:55,540
really nice to each other I overhear a

1080
00:54:01,470 --> 00:53:58,570
little conversation somebody you know it

1081
00:54:03,480 --> 00:54:01,480
doesn't have lunch so they the other

1082
00:54:06,240 --> 00:54:03,490
person shares their lunch or gives them

1083
00:54:09,990 --> 00:54:06,250
a little bit of money so I'm fairly

1084
00:54:12,660 --> 00:54:10,000
upbeat about this but there's also a

1085
00:54:14,820 --> 00:54:12,670
neuroscience conduction researchers

1086
00:54:18,720 --> 00:54:14,830
scanned people's brains while they

1087
00:54:21,630 --> 00:54:18,730
watched videos showing heroic acts of

1088
00:54:24,030 --> 00:54:21,640
kindness and they found that areas of

1089
00:54:26,160 --> 00:54:24,040
the brain involved in arousal and those

1090
00:54:29,250 --> 00:54:26,170
involved in social engagement were

1091
00:54:31,740 --> 00:54:29,260
activated at the same time and those

1092
00:54:33,930 --> 00:54:31,750
areas are connected the areas that have

1093
00:54:37,050 --> 00:54:33,940
to do with dopamine and dopamine is kind

1094
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:37,060
of our happy chemical so it's it you

1095
00:54:42,750 --> 00:54:38,770
know when we feel happy we're more

1096
00:54:44,910 --> 00:54:42,760
likely to do happy things and all of

1097
00:54:47,010 --> 00:54:44,920
this has to do with social networking

1098
00:54:49,859 --> 00:54:47,020
and maybe this is something you already

1099
00:54:53,940 --> 00:54:49,869
knew but you know I would encourage you

1100
00:54:56,460 --> 00:54:53,950
to become the person you know be nice

1101
00:54:58,020 --> 00:54:56,470
first and know that for the rest of the

1102
00:55:01,800 --> 00:54:58,030
day you probably set off a chain

1103
00:55:03,900 --> 00:55:01,810
reaction I am surprised when I walk up

1104
00:55:05,730 --> 00:55:03,910
to someone and say you look really nice

1105
00:55:09,050 --> 00:55:05,740
today or

1106
00:55:11,609 --> 00:55:09,060
it's a nice dress or I like your haircut

1107
00:55:13,760 --> 00:55:11,619
you know and you know this too that the

1108
00:55:17,010 --> 00:55:13,770
person just smiles there their whole

1109
00:55:20,040 --> 00:55:17,020
their whole person seems to light up and

1110
00:55:22,830 --> 00:55:20,050
and and what cost you it cost you a few

1111
00:55:24,930 --> 00:55:22,840
seconds of your time and then maybe that

1112
00:55:27,420 --> 00:55:24,940
person goes out and does something nice

1113
00:55:29,550 --> 00:55:27,430
you know nice is actually one of the

1114
00:55:33,570 --> 00:55:29,560
greatest gifts that we can give and it

1115
00:55:35,400 --> 00:55:33,580
costs us almost nothing and i think this

1116
00:55:37,050 --> 00:55:35,410
study was pointing you know pointing

1117
00:55:39,620 --> 00:55:37,060
that out though the rest of the study

1118
00:55:42,420 --> 00:55:39,630
was also connecting it to moral behavior

1119
00:55:48,300 --> 00:55:42,430
but i would certainly think that nice is

1120
00:55:49,650 --> 00:55:48,310
connected to it immoral behavior ok now

1121
00:55:52,710 --> 00:55:49,660
the contest will you got three minutes

1122
00:56:00,060 --> 00:55:52,720
left okay okay the phone number is 8 8 8

1123
00:56:02,460 --> 00:56:00,070
9 192 355 okay that's 8 8 8 9 19 2 3 55

1124
00:56:05,790 --> 00:56:02,470
and all you got to do is call into the

1125
00:56:09,240 --> 00:56:05,800
show and tell me what the most common

1126
00:56:11,609 --> 00:56:09,250
disorder is on the planet and the answer

1127
00:56:13,609 --> 00:56:11,619
is depression and you will win this

1128
00:56:17,940 --> 00:56:13,619
wonderful portable bluetooth speaker

1129
00:56:19,710 --> 00:56:17,950
okay and you got about 33 it well I know

1130
00:56:21,870 --> 00:56:19,720
we're allowed to go over a little bit so

1131
00:56:24,000 --> 00:56:21,880
while you're busy Lee dialing the phone

1132
00:56:25,980 --> 00:56:24,010
and I know people are out tonight

1133
00:56:27,840 --> 00:56:25,990
because of fathers day so if we don't

1134
00:56:34,530 --> 00:56:27,850
get a call we'll do it again next week

1135
00:56:37,050 --> 00:56:34,540
and while I'm waiting for a call I will

1136
00:56:39,560 --> 00:56:37,060
dabble in another article here because

1137
00:56:43,260 --> 00:56:39,570
there is one I wanted to try to fit in

1138
00:56:46,140 --> 00:56:43,270
the hidden power of humor because I love

1139
00:56:48,599 --> 00:56:46,150
humor that you know them there are some

1140
00:56:50,280 --> 00:56:48,609
really good research studies that show

1141
00:56:53,190 --> 00:56:50,290
that if you use humor when you're

1142
00:56:55,650 --> 00:56:53,200
teaching people are more likely to learn

1143
00:56:58,890 --> 00:56:55,660
and research studies they would teach

1144
00:57:00,990 --> 00:56:58,900
one group of people some facts but they

1145
00:57:02,790 --> 00:57:01,000
would use humor and then another group

1146
00:57:05,580 --> 00:57:02,800
they would just simply teach the facts

1147
00:57:07,380 --> 00:57:05,590
and then when they had both groups you

1148
00:57:11,640 --> 00:57:07,390
know when they tested them for recall

1149
00:57:15,150 --> 00:57:11,650
the group disick so who's a humor I had

1150
00:57:17,940 --> 00:57:15,160
a higher Herb Kohl rate so now if you

1151
00:57:19,470 --> 00:57:17,950
track not naturally produce buddy you

1152
00:57:21,900 --> 00:57:19,480
know it's cut its going to cut off

1153
00:57:25,770 --> 00:57:21,910
the fake and I'm not suggesting that but

1154
00:57:28,230 --> 00:57:25,780
you could smile make eye contact you

1155
00:57:30,030 --> 00:57:28,240
know and if yet and and tell tell a

1156
00:57:32,490 --> 00:57:30,040
funny little anecdote once in a while

1157
00:57:33,870 --> 00:57:32,500
it's worth it anyway I'm shot from this

1158
00:57:36,540 --> 00:57:33,880
article and then I'm going to run out of

1159
00:57:38,490 --> 00:57:36,550
time is evidence for the direct benefits

1160
00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:38,500
of humor line studies the body's

1161
00:57:43,020 --> 00:57:41,290
chemical reaction to laughter among

1162
00:57:46,560 --> 00:57:43,030
other things laughter has been shown to

1163
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:46,570
reduce stress boost the human immune

1164
00:57:50,820 --> 00:57:48,970
system and enhanced brain chemistry

1165
00:57:54,150 --> 00:57:50,830
through the release of serotonin and

1166
00:57:56,900 --> 00:57:54,160
endorphins serotonin is our important

1167
00:58:00,510 --> 00:57:56,910
mood chemical and endorphins or natural

1168
00:58:03,030 --> 00:58:00,520
painkillers met Potter antidepressants

1169
00:58:05,520 --> 00:58:03,040
target the neurotransmitter serotonin so

1170
00:58:08,390 --> 00:58:05,530
laughing can kind of do their opponent

1171
00:58:12,240 --> 00:58:08,400
does I've done some many experiment and

1172
00:58:14,609 --> 00:58:12,250
mi ni many experiments with students

1173
00:58:17,040 --> 00:58:14,619
where I had them just laugh even though

1174
00:58:19,109 --> 00:58:17,050
nothing was funny just laugh and then

1175
00:58:21,060 --> 00:58:19,119
tell me how you feel and most people

1176
00:58:23,970 --> 00:58:21,070
will say you know it's funny but I feel

1177
00:58:26,250 --> 00:58:23,980
better my body feels lighter I feel

1178
00:58:28,320 --> 00:58:26,260
happy when you're unhappy when you're

1179
00:58:29,400 --> 00:58:28,330
going through a bad time you know and if

1180
00:58:32,250 --> 00:58:29,410
you don't want people to think you're

1181
00:58:35,370 --> 00:58:32,260
crazy just go in the bathroom close the

1182
00:58:38,210 --> 00:58:35,380
door turn the water on and laugh laugh

1183
00:58:41,940 --> 00:58:38,220
really hard and you will be surprised at

1184
00:58:44,430 --> 00:58:41,950
how much better you'll feel even if it's

1185
00:58:46,980 --> 00:58:44,440
only a little bit better it haps but

1186
00:58:49,280 --> 00:58:46,990
humor does a lot for us psychologically

1187
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:49,290
and it takes a does a lot for us

1188
00:58:53,700 --> 00:58:51,850
socially well I have really enjoyed our

1189
00:58:55,500 --> 00:58:53,710
time with you I wish somebody would have

1190
00:58:59,480 --> 00:58:55,510
called them but I know people are busy

1191
00:59:02,520 --> 00:58:59,490
will do the same contest next week